The Pain is Not in Vain

Assalamualaikum and good evening everyone

Humans are always have their painful memories, events and moments in their life. The pain will actually give colours in our life. It will happen that those things will actually add values and give meanings to our life. As a normal human being, I also could not escape from many kinds of pain in my life.

Maybe it's time for me to reduce nagging and complaining about my life to other people. I should pray and raise my hand to perform du'a to reduce the pain in my heart. Tell Him everything that I feel, what I want from Him, ask Him to make me stronger to face the problems. I already knew that He knows what my heart feels, and what I'm going to say in my du'a, but that doesn't mean that I can just tell him straight away from my heart. Du'a is still essential in order to ask for something beyond your capability, a proper and a formal way I should say although you can whisper it in your heart. Yes, Allah can hear what our heart whispers.

In Surah Qaf (The Letter) in al-Quran (also known as Koran), verse 16 states that;

"It was We Who created man, and We know what dark suggestions his soul makes to him: for We are nearer to him than (his) jugular vein."

So Allah knows every detail about what we're thinking and our heart tells us to do. Whether it is good or bad.

And yet, what we can actually do, despite of all the sadness that we are going through, we must be patient and try to engage the level of 'Sobrun Jamil' which means the highest level of patience. The perfect patience or the most beautiful patience. This is because, Sobrun means patience and Jamil means beautiful.

We can start by saying few words that may motivate us. Say 'Alhamdulillah', which means Praise to God. Be thankful for the slight 'pain'/'test' that He gave. It is only a small thing in our life, and we must be grateful that we have not been tested in heavier tasks. We also must be grateful as the test may change us, and leads us to something that we could have not imagine. Who knows except Allah, right?

Say 'Insya-Allah' which means 'If God Wills it' too. If God (Allah) wills, we can find a way to find a solution for the problem or the sadness. And at the same time, we also must strive very hard to turn things for the better.

"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves."

Verse 11, Surah Ar-Ra'd (The Thunder), Al-Quran (Koran).

So, we already bare in mind that we have to think positive of the pain that Allah gives us in life. You guys can also look into verse 286 in chapter 2, and verse 2 & 3 in chapter 24. These words of God may help to motivate you. It is time to get along with the second 'pain'...

The first pain would be the falling of ourselves in the test. Which includes heartache, physical pain, other people look down at you, etc. For example, you sprained your ankle (physical pain) and been scold for bad attitude (heartache) That would be the first wave. Now, the second wave that maybe more painful, is the effort that we have to put in a consistent way. For the ankle, maybe you need massage sessions and for the bad attitude, you need to change yourself to become a better person.

It is a simple math;

1 pain (1st wave) + 1 pain (2nd wave) = 2 ( Two times the pleasure of success)

The pain that we have to bear and suffer right now doesn't mean we have to face another pain in the future. He gives us the pleasure to taste a bit bitter before he gives you the pleasure of sweetness in the form of success or happiness. Think positively and act wisely starting right now!

Mysterious Heroes Are Always Cool

Assalamualaikum and good evening.

Yeah! Suddenly I got the guts to carry on my responsibilities to post new entries in this blog! >.<
lolz
Okay, stop playing around. =)

Kamen Rider or Masked Rider is one of my favorite masked heroes. Because they're mysterious in a way and it is cool!!!

xD

The title says it all. Mysterious heroes are always cool. Seriously. Heroes are everywhere. They are all around you actually. It is you who don't discover them yet. Eventhough they can't fly, they can't lift heavy objects easily, that doesn't mean that they cannot be our heroes. Heroes are not just in comic books. People around you can be your heroes when you respect them more than other people.

The story starts when I went for for Taraweeh prayer, last week I guess. Taraweeh prayer is a special prayer for Muslims in Ramadan month. After we finished Isha' (night) prayer, we stop for a while, to hear for a talk from the committee members of the mosque. He talked a lot, but this one attracts me from sleeping while sitting, waiting for the Taraweeh prayer.

"There's a slave of Allah who comes infront, in the first row for almost every Taraweeh prayer. He's a good man, a man who have a strong heart and soul. Because he used to be a normal person, just like us. Starts his motorcycle with right leg and parked it with his left leg. But Allah tested him. He was given a disease (diabetes) an he had to cut off one of his legs. He's heart is strong, indeed, because I still seeing him coming everyday for Taraweeh prayer (front row), in Subuh (dawn) prayer, sometimes for Zuhr (afternoon) prayer and Asr (evening) prayer because maybe during that time, he was bit busy. He is still coming to Mosque although he had to face that kind of condition. Can you guys imagine if you become like him, with one leg and the other one is a prosthetic leg, would you guys come to Mosque like he did? He was born to strive in Islam's pathway, a pathway that pleased and blessed by Allah. I'll not mention his name as we must make his test as our reminder, not by idolizing him. May Allah bless all his strives all this while."

I was like...raised my head up when I heard about this. Suddenly I realized that this man is actually my friend's father and his younger brother is sitting at the back row. He already put prosthetic leg on and it costs him thousands of Malaysian Ringgit. But he used it well, to submit himself to Allah.

I asked myself. Me as a normal human being, always give reasons why I'm so lazy to go to the Mosque. While he already lost his leg, coming for Mosque, craving for deeds that are promised by Allah. It is my laziness inside that stunted my intention to go there. If I'm not lazy, with Allah's will, I will go there for every prayer. When it comes to cinemas, karaoke, and other places, there's no word such as 'lazy' popped out from my mind. This is bad. =(

Salaat in congregation will offers us 27x more rewards rather than usual. Besides, Prophet Muhammad P.B.U.H in his life always encourage Muslims to pray in congregation, which can easily attained by going to the Mosque. Besides, I always believe that true Muslim men will come to the Mosque to perform their prayer. How I wish to become a true Muslim man one day...=)

I already put him as my role model in life. And the best part is, I know who he is...=P

So, in this blessed month, Ramadan, let us keep coming to the Mosque to perform prayers.
This is also a reminder to myself.

Don't be a slave for Ramadan by doing good deeds only for this time around,
but be a slave of Allah by doing good deeds in this Ramadan and for the rest of our life.
=D

The Preparations To Become a Good Father

Assalamualaikum and good evening~

This entry is dedicated for the Father's Day. Well, I'm not telling you guys more about my 'fathers' for now, but deep inside, I am still appreciating them. In this entry, I will share to you guys about some preparations that I must do before I am entitled as a father, one day, Insya-Allah.

1. Prayer (Salat)

Since the prayer is the basic thing in Islam, I must do it all, five times a day. But, unfortunately I performed  the prayer a bit late than I should and it is not good, indeed. It's like I'm putting other things first rather than my responsibilities towards Allah by performing my prayer according to the time. I must remind myself, that my life would end anytime right now, by any forms of death that may invites me in a sudden, so I need to perform my prayer first before continuing my life. Allah gives us 24 hours a day, why we cannot let our heart, having a submission towards Allah? Each prayer may took around 10 minutes. We as Muslims, need to pray at least five times a day, which means a total of 50 minutes out of 1440 minutes (24 hours x 60 minutes) must be spend to maintain a good slave-creator relationship. We always believe when we eat we will feel relieved from any hunger, we always believe that when we can have a safe journey if we drive carefully. BUT WE ARE WRONG. It is Allah who gives the the fills our empty stomach. Some people eat in small amount but they are already full, some people have to eat a lot to fill their stomach. IT IS THE POWER OF ALLAH. The same goes when people driving the car in such a careful manner, if they didn't hit the other cars, the other cars can hit them with the power of Allah.

"His Command, when He intends anything, is only that He says to it, "Be' then (and there) it is - (Kun Fayakun)" - Verse 82.


Besides than performing prayer early, performing the prayer in congregation is far more better as we will get 27x more rewards than praying alone at home.

2. Give up in smoke

Well, this is hard I think...I already tried to give up in smoke for few times, but sadly, I failed. When I was in school, I was not too addicted with cigarettes, until I finished my high school and I went for the foundation, I accidentally become addicted. Last time, in Malaysia the price for Winston Light 20's is RM7.80 but the price was raised up to RM8.50. I spent one pack for a week. I put myself a limit to smoke, 4 cigarettes per day, so  one pack can lasts around 5 days. For Saturdays and Sundays, I usually went to my brother's house, so I always kept asking him for cigarettes. After finishing the foundation, I went to Langkawi Island and bought a carton of cigarette, Winston Filter which costs me RM47. The price was dirt cheap. One packet is only around RM4.70. So when I work, I smoke for every hour and when it comes to 28th of May, the day that I want to stop smoking, I can feel a pain at my chest because I stopped tremendously. I took my sister-in-law's advice to stop smoking slowly, and not in such a hurry. Now I only smoke around 3-5 cigarettes per day, with the help of my supervisor. He's the one who supports me with the cigarettes.

In order to become a good father is to stop smoking. Why? Simply because I don't my children to get any disease because of me. And I don't them to follow my bad habits. That's all. I don't want to waste my money and my precious life because of cigarettes too. But if I managed to give up in smoking, I give myself a limit to smoke only with my old friends who are really hard. Because, although you guys may not be a smoker, but you guys must understand how people like me.

We smoke when we:
- Feel tensed
- Bored
- After eating
- Feel cold
- In toilet (you get what I mean)
- Hangout with friends

And I smoke ONLY when meet my old friends if I managed to give up on smoking. That means maybe I smoked only a cigarette for a month. Who knows?

3. Save some money for the future

Now my money is still stuck RM9k in the bank...I wish I can add RM2k more before 2012.
If I can discipline myself to save up to RM5k for each two semesters in degree (one year), after my degree, I will have around RM30k. RM5k x 4 years plus RM9k, hopefully I can reach around RM30k or more...
When I save my money in banks such as Bank Rakyat, Bank Persatuan and ASB, the dividend will be from 7%-15%, depends on the bank.
This will help me to kick-start my life as a teacher, insya-Allah....=)

If I get the chance to continue my studies in UiTM, I will try to apply for the MARA education loan, which will help me a lot rather than PTPTN loan which costs me a lot.
The difference between MARA education loan and PTPTN :

MARA:
- Passed the required CGPA, loans will turned into scholarship
- Have to pay back according to the CGPA. If you didn't reach the required CGPA, you will have to pay according to their system. e.g. pay 5% out of the total amount when you get more than 3.5, pay 10% if you get 3 and above, pay 15% if you get 2.5 and above, etc

PTPTN:
- Passed the reauired CGPA, loans will turned into scholarship
-If you didn't meet the required CGPA, you'll have to pay all the amount that you loaned plus some interests

*Please correct me if I'm wrong about these okay?
But both of the loans will ask you to pay monthly, and not to pay all the money you borrowed at once.

Money cannot give us, the humans the happiness that we need, but they may contribute us to search for the happiness and tranquility. But do remember, money is not everything. I need money to raise my children, buying diapers, food, and many more. Although I need money for all these, it is love and attention that matters. Poor people may live happily rather than rich people because they were provided with enough love and attention from their family. Am I right? =)

4. Cursing other people

Cursing is also my bad habit, and yes, it is hard to resist. The first reason why I'm cursing people is I cannot control my anger towards other people. Next, when I cannot control myself, vulgar words that I've been used before slipped through my mouth. The words are very offensive. Sometimes the words not only offended the target persons, but also their mothers and fathers. And sorry, it is out of my control if I'm cursing people to that extend. But cursing also used for jokes, when you hangout with your friends, cursing each other seems to be a tradition.

This cursing habit is not good to be shown to my children. It'll shows my disability to control my patience, my immaturity, and accidentally I set a bad example of vulgar words to them too. So in order for me to achieve my dream, a good father, I must control myself from cursing starting from now.

I think that's all for now, I know there's a lot of defect in me. But these four thing really can inflict my role as a good father, to raise my children properly so that they can become good people.

P.S - Suddenly I felt that I want to get married earlier than I thought before. >.<
Wanna be a good father as soon as possible, but unfortunately I don't have any candidate to be my future my wife for now.
Sorry for the post before,
about W, in the She Who Has The Magic And Cursed Me With Her Charm...
She didn't like me from the very beginning, and I already turned a new leaf.
For now, I'm proud to be an eligible bachelor.
xD

Valentine's Day

Assalamualaikum and good morning to fellow readers~

Every year, 14th February is a date will surely remembered by everyone. Well, of course it is a lie, if I don't remember the date because, every year, I keep thinking about myself, being alone without no girlfriend besides me. HAHAHA

Now what is Valentine's Day? It is a date, of course, especially for lovers. It is a date to show our love towards our special ones, or basically confess your feelings toward the one that you love.

The date of 14th February and the meaning of it, were implanted in our mind by the westerns.

Do ask ourselves, are we MUSLIM?

Many people would say,
"Come on, every people are celebrating the date, so why shouldn't you?"
"I love you darling, today I gonna show you my love. Lets go for a date?"

Well, the thing is, when you are with your girlfriend/boyfriend, at first of course you are just staring at your love one. Your eyes will eventually meet his/her eyes. You take a deep look into those eyes. You started to feel the warmth of the love. The next thing you know, both of you and his/her are holding tight, firmly. You started to get closer to the person. face to face
suddenly your lips touched her/his tender lips.

SEE?

It is even worser when you are in a room/house where there are 'no other people in it'


But actually, there is...

"Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third." Hadith - Sahih Bukhari, Book 25, Number 5403, Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr

That is what happened when you are too obsessed with the idea of Valentine's Day, 14th February.You forget about Islam and your role as a Muslim.

Well, you can deny it by saying you would not go to that extend...But is your Iman is strong to protect you from all those sins???

Wait a second, what about those who are legally married?

Can they still celebrate the date of 14th February?

Please don't be a monkey,

As wise man says, 'Monkey see, monkey do', you must know few facts about the origins of the Valentine's Day:

- There was actually a priest, Valentine, who are actually active in spreading Christianity to the people in Rome. The king, Claudius II had captured him, and he was been tortured. Before the day of his sentence, which was on 14th February, he managed to gave a letter to one of the guard's daughter. At the end of the letter, it was written like this ; "From Your Valentine". Because of his deeds and love towards Christianity, the Christians decided to make 14th of February as a day to show love among men and women.

- Another fact is, the date of 14th February 1492 is the date of the loss of Spain Muslims to the Christian armies. There was one priest named Pedro St. Valentino called the day as Valentine's Day as a loving day, to celebrate their victory as they say Islam is bad and cruel towards humans.

If you are a Muslim, are you still gonna celebrate it?

think again

=)

THE SOLUTION

The best thing if you do love someone, no matter he/she loves you back or not, you can always try to perform you prayer by doing Solat, and you can ask for Allah's Mercy to strengthen the bond between you and your love one.

You can try this du'a:

If you don't have any financial constrain, and you do have the might, you can go to Jabal Rahmah in Mecca during Umrah. This is because the hill, Jabal Rahmah is the place where Prophet Adam met his wife back, Hawa after 100 years of separation. People say that you can get your soul mate here if you pray (du'a) to Allah S.W.T and Insya-Allah your du'a will answered by Him.

Basically there are three types of love

1. The love of The Creator (Allah S.W.T) towards His creations

2. The love of th creations towards their Creator

3. The love of the creations towards the other creations

Love is a feeling that can't be denied. But, it does has the limitation.

=)